Haute Couture Wedding Dresses

So my sister lives in Hawaii. She is getting married in May (she got engaged in Dec) on the beach. Her original colors were lilac and white. When she went bridesmaid dress shopping she changed her color to burnt orange.

My problem. I am getting married in October. I booked my site before her, selected my flowers and my colors. My colors are burnt orange, brown and ivory (just hints of brown and ivory). My main flower is an orange calla lilly.

She had an appt with the florist this weekend called to tell me what flowers she picked out and I almost started crying. Her main flower….an orange calla lilly. That is my main flower. I refuse to tell her anything else about my wedding because she is taking all my plans and making them her wedding! That alone is stressing me out and bringing me to tears. I told her that was my flower and she knew my colors were orange, ivory and brown. She told me my mom and dad and step sisters will be the only one at both weddings and no one will notice. I didn’t say a word back. I felt like I was going to be sick to my stomach so I just got off the phone. Am I wrong for being upset about this? I know I am not the only person in the world to have those colors and flowers…but why did she have to copy me!

So, my boyfriend and I want to get married on January 16, 2008 (yep next month…)

We want SMALL (just us, officiant and witnesses), CHEAP (he is saving, I am studying and working part time, nobody’s parents are making contributions, we want to keep costs to a minimum…ie, I am not going to be buying any wedding dress, wedding cape or flowers or anything, NO DESTINATION WEDDINGS…..AND I don’t WANT to PLAN WEDDING STUFF….)

We both agreed to wanting to get married in the great outdoors and selected a beach in Rhode Island….

but I want some alternate ideas, since maybe, the parking/road to the beach doesn’t get plowed, or we can’t find a brave officiant….

We know we could go to court, or Niagara Falls, but we want something BEYOND LOW KEY that reflects our style. (not those “wedding package style” at Niagara Falls)

I need some alternative wedding ideas…(other than court and Vegas styles….) We are LOW KEY….

Please, any help would be greatly appreciated!
We don’t want to travel at all! He lives in Rhode Island, and I live in Montreal. We want to keep the distance within a day trip genre…I would prefer to go down to his state for the actual “wedding”